A very special picture for me – to Ola

I guess this blog post is as personal as it gets, but at the same time this blog is about “life in general” so I’ve decided to share some thoughts around a personal subject.

Since I’m going to Piteå in a short period of time; a trip that I’m really looking forward to, this will be the first time in winter since last christmas and I guess there will be memories from last years visit. Last christmas was a really odd one. My foster-brother, Ola, that lived with our family during my whole up-bringing passed away on the evening of the 23:rd of December.

Jul i Piteå

This picture was taken the next morning, in the morning of Christmas eve. At that moment, when the picture was taken, we still hadn’t got the message.

The morning was really chilly and calm, and in many ways respectful of what we didn’t know at that stage. Now, 10 months later I guess this picture means a lot more than just trying out a new camera that was the main purpose for this picture.

My brother lived in the southern parts of Sweden, and I guess we hadn’t spoken nearly as much as we should’ve done, but last year (in 2010) that changed, and we had started to make some plans together. Not big plans, but nice small ones. Ola had been ill in the winter/spring of 2010, but we all thought that he now would fully recover. Our plans came to a sudden end during the christmas Holliday… Will never forget when my father answered the phone and I instantly could feel what’ve happened.

I’m really proud of my brother. He made a remarkable life journey both in his private life as in his carrier and in many ways he could be a role model for many others. When Ola was in the middle of “högstadiet” (between middle school and high school in US) his grades were really poor (around 1 in Swedish terms) and he struggled in many parts of life, and the future, to be honest didn’t look that great but one day my mother and Ola made a deal.

My mom asked

– Ola, do you want to stay home from school for two days?

and you can guess what the instant answer was? 🙂

– Of course!!”, he said with a big smile!

My mother replied:

– Ok, you can call in sick but you have to do one thing during the days you stay at home, and that is to study for the test that you will have a few days from now.

Ola thought that this deal was great! And I can imagine that it was a great feeling that a parent told you to call in sick… so he stayed home, listened to his KISS-albums, but he kept his promise, he studied!

When the test results came back Ola had the best score in his whole class, and he was proud, he suddenly felt as if he was as good as anyone else, and this wasn’t so hard! This was a big day of change for him in his school work, and I guess in his overall life. When he left high school he had 11 (I think it was out of 13 or 14) 5:s (grade A+ internationally) and the rest was 4:s (like grade A:s).

I have so many stories about Ola; like the first time when he was baby sitting for me and my sister and mixed cinnamon with cocoa and made us, in a strong bossy style, drink half a litre of that brew, not listening to our loud childish complaints. A horrifying moment at that time but afterwards a great laugh, and all about young minds.

After finishing school and he had left his national services behind, he then after a few years of work in the paving industry, started his own firm in the same branch. A firm that got really successful.

After some time he also met his wife and started a family. A family that I know he loved above all.

With love and respect

This song was performed by Ola Sigfridsson at the ceremony

6 thoughts on “A very special picture for me – to Ola

  1. Nandini

    This picture is, as if it is something/everything (what had happened then) in its calmness. Life suddenly stops and then it’s all calm and peace, which we all have to experience one day, and which we cannot share ever, since we won’t be alive to do that.

    Life is not meant to be taken for granted, I believe that, and try to remind myself now and then, when I’m taking note of my actions, decisions and relationships. And love is very important, essence of our being. I hope I’m making sense to you.

    I can understand how it feels, to loose someone. But memories always stay, and that too, the happy and loving memories. So why not work on creating them in our present life. Right 🙂

    Thanks so much for sharing this post. It makes me value my life and my close ones’.

    Hope you are fine 🙂

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